Support

Some people think that when you care about someone you need to support all their decisions whether you agree or not. Personally I don’t agree with this at all. You can love someone and not support what they do, it’s called stepping back and everyone needs to do it once in a while.

While some of us live on high horses and think we know what’s best for every body(me), and we may be wrong sometimes(rarely), we need to know people make their on choices. No one will listen to you all the time. You may think some one may being doing something stupid or dangerous, you can tell them. In the end though they are going to do what they want no matter what you say.

At this point it is up to you to decide if you want to be there for them when it’s over. I’m not talking about hitting on some random hot guy at the bar, I‘m talking about bigger life choices.
At what point to you realize that this is the last straw. When do you say, “I’m done picking up your messes.”? When is it time for “I love you but I can’t.”

They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. How long must we keep beating our heads on walls before you realize we are always going to get a headache and we need to walk away? It may be hard for us horse people who always want to fix everything to leave at times like this. You have to! If you stay and keep putting the messes back in order nothing will ever change (The proverbial wall)! Our headache causing loved ones need to hit that wall for once and clean up there own mess by themselves in order to learn any kind of lesson.

More often then we care to admit, it is healthier for everyone to take a “friendship break”. Take some time off from each other, give yourself time to let go, and give them time to get through whatever idiot thing they’ve done this time.

This post is really me speaking to myself ‘cause I am taking freaking forever to learn this damn lesson!! Apparently my horse is REALLY REALLY tall. I’ll tell you guys all about it but won’t do it myself… Maybe now I will since I put it there publicly, at least I hope so ‘cause my head really hurts.

Stay Tuned people!!!!