I started my new job this week, I'm the youngest person there by about 15 years (and that's being nice). So of course as the new girl I get bombarded in the first few days with personal questions, and then get to hear everyone elses. But something one of the older ladies said stuck me, and I still haven't decide how I feel about it.
The first morning I was there the woman training me noticed my wedding rings.
She goes "Oh, you're married?"
I say "Yeah for a little over 2 years now."
She smirks and says "wait til the honeymoon stage wears off."
At the time I just smiled and nodded, I mean what the hell do I know compared to a woman who's been married almost 50 years. In the past week though this conversation keeps popping back into my brain. I mean this woman doesn't even know me and she's telling me to wait for my marriage to go to hell.
As you know we never really had a "honeymoon stage", we did everything so fast there could never have been anything but honesty between us. I really started to think about what that could possibly mean since I am pretty sure I didn't experience it. I mean I get it theoretically, it's the time in a relationship when the "shine" wears off, but we never had a shine per-say.
Further thought lead me to think that perhaps more than anything else the "honeymoon" is more of a state of mind. As long as you put the effort into your marriage then the honeymoon will never end. We take time every day to make each other smile, to hug and kiss, to make jokes. Just last night we were up til midnight having tickle fights. After sleeping in the same bed together for 3 years, after getting married and having a baby, we still have tickle fights at least a few nights a week. We ask each other some times if we'll always be this way, and without real thought the other always answers "YES".
We make time to for our relationship, we put all other things aside and simply LOVE each other. We decided when I was pregnant to never let the baby ruin OUR relationship. I think a lot of people forget that, yes she is the most important thing in the world to both of us, but then we are each others second. So one kid or seven kids we will ALWAYS make time for each other and for simple things like late night tickle.
So I guess the "honeymoon" is a personal choice between spouses, as for me and mine ours will never end.
Stay Tuned
Saturday, December 28, 2013
Saturday, December 21, 2013
Unplugged
24 hours ago I logged off facebook. I deleted the app from my phone and this is the first time I've turned my computer on since my last post. I feel like I can admit that I have an addiction to social media. Not that I post or am active much I am constantly nosing around other peoples posts.
Last night after having a "religious" argument and almost starting a political fight I decided that it would be easier to remove myself from the internet than deleting the majority of my "friends list". I am hoping I can stay away til after the holidays, but as it is now day two I am feeling the strain. Like any habit this just needs to be broken and once I get past it I hope I can return only marginally.
I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I seriously feel that if you're going to put your thoughts out on a public media you should at least do a little research so you don't look like a pompous idiot. Yes the government as gone full moron, and celebrities die or put their foot in their mouths JUST LIKE EVERY HUMAN! Nothing you say on social media is going to make a difference! If you seriously want to make a change get out from behind your laptop and do something! As for the people who start arguments simply for arguments sake, GET A LIFE. If you honestly have nothing better to do than start political/religious/life choice fights on FB then I am very sad that you have such an empty life.
As you can probably tell even after 36 hours I'm still a little heated about it all...
I didn't delete my page or announce that I was taking a break, I simply logged off. I guess we'll see if anyone notices.
Luckily I am going back to work next week, so I'll have something better to do than check facebook every few minutes.Oh yeah! I finally got hired!! I start Monday after postponing a week to find childcare. Luckily we've found a lovely woman who genuinely likes what she does and loves all the kids she already has. So here's hoping and praying everything works out well.
Stay Tuned and wish me the best!!!
Last night after having a "religious" argument and almost starting a political fight I decided that it would be easier to remove myself from the internet than deleting the majority of my "friends list". I am hoping I can stay away til after the holidays, but as it is now day two I am feeling the strain. Like any habit this just needs to be broken and once I get past it I hope I can return only marginally.
I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I seriously feel that if you're going to put your thoughts out on a public media you should at least do a little research so you don't look like a pompous idiot. Yes the government as gone full moron, and celebrities die or put their foot in their mouths JUST LIKE EVERY HUMAN! Nothing you say on social media is going to make a difference! If you seriously want to make a change get out from behind your laptop and do something! As for the people who start arguments simply for arguments sake, GET A LIFE. If you honestly have nothing better to do than start political/religious/life choice fights on FB then I am very sad that you have such an empty life.
As you can probably tell even after 36 hours I'm still a little heated about it all...
I didn't delete my page or announce that I was taking a break, I simply logged off. I guess we'll see if anyone notices.
Luckily I am going back to work next week, so I'll have something better to do than check facebook every few minutes.Oh yeah! I finally got hired!! I start Monday after postponing a week to find childcare. Luckily we've found a lovely woman who genuinely likes what she does and loves all the kids she already has. So here's hoping and praying everything works out well.
Stay Tuned and wish me the best!!!
Thursday, December 19, 2013
Man that kid made fucking up look cool...
Older, wiser people refer to the teen through early twenty years as the "Young and Dumb" years. Which is ironic considering the people in that group think they know absolutely everything. But I think that's why they're dumb. It takes years to get past that mind set, and some people never really do.
I've been there, and in a lot of ways I'm still there. I am quick to give advice and to hard headed to accept it when I need it. The most honest piece of advice I ever received that I would pass on is, keep your eyes open, and don't let emotion cloud your judgement. The minute you hear yourself say "but I love him/her." You're probably doing the wrong thing. 99 times out of 100 your heart is wrong! Sorry but it is. The minute your head heart and gut aren't all on the same page you have a problem.
No one wants to hear that though. Every girl wants to believe her life is a real love story, and every boy only sees as far as next weekend. I'm not saying the stuff from the great love stories and songs doesn't happen, but they are the exception NOT the norm. I know that's big talk coming from me of all people, but that doesn't mean it's not true.
This is really not how I first intended this post to go, but I'm on a roll now. I have been in a lot of bad relationships and lost a lot along the way. Part of me feels like that is why I give good advice because I've already done it the wrong way at lease twice. When you start to sacrifice your beliefs and your principals it's time to go. People will tell you til they're blue in the face that love is worth fighting for, and yes it is but that doesn't mean it is a constant battle! That kind of relationship is not love. That is fire and gasoline. While it may be fun for a time with all the anger and passion and love making, at the end of the day you're trying to fit a square peg in a round hole and it never ends well.
Love is all the things people say it is and isn't. You still need to apologize, and you'll still be jealous and resentful at times. Real love is stronger and deeper than all of those feelings combined. Real love is a force to be reckoned with , it can do amazing things. It can't however put food on the table and pay the bills. Love is the greatest of contradictions, without it nothing seems worthwhile, but it is definitely not ALL you need. Each couples love is their own, but there are lines that are not to be crossed. It's not about having someone who "needs" you, if your partner can't take care of themselves they are in no position to be in a relationship. Your true partner is the person who makes you a better YOU, and vice versa.
Young love is far less likely to succeed, especially in today's world. Love and relationships are constant work. You can't expect to lock eyes across a crowded room and be set for life. It really doesn't work like that. You need to fall in love with the same person every day, and that is no easy feat. You need to constantly compromise, and go out of your way to make the other person smile. It takes effort.
My generation as a whole is very young and dumb, for every one that actually has their head on straight there is at least four others who are complete messes. Saying I'm a little nervous to see what the future holds is a gross understatement. I guess we'll find out together...
Stay Tuned
I've been there, and in a lot of ways I'm still there. I am quick to give advice and to hard headed to accept it when I need it. The most honest piece of advice I ever received that I would pass on is, keep your eyes open, and don't let emotion cloud your judgement. The minute you hear yourself say "but I love him/her." You're probably doing the wrong thing. 99 times out of 100 your heart is wrong! Sorry but it is. The minute your head heart and gut aren't all on the same page you have a problem.
No one wants to hear that though. Every girl wants to believe her life is a real love story, and every boy only sees as far as next weekend. I'm not saying the stuff from the great love stories and songs doesn't happen, but they are the exception NOT the norm. I know that's big talk coming from me of all people, but that doesn't mean it's not true.
This is really not how I first intended this post to go, but I'm on a roll now. I have been in a lot of bad relationships and lost a lot along the way. Part of me feels like that is why I give good advice because I've already done it the wrong way at lease twice. When you start to sacrifice your beliefs and your principals it's time to go. People will tell you til they're blue in the face that love is worth fighting for, and yes it is but that doesn't mean it is a constant battle! That kind of relationship is not love. That is fire and gasoline. While it may be fun for a time with all the anger and passion and love making, at the end of the day you're trying to fit a square peg in a round hole and it never ends well.
Love is all the things people say it is and isn't. You still need to apologize, and you'll still be jealous and resentful at times. Real love is stronger and deeper than all of those feelings combined. Real love is a force to be reckoned with , it can do amazing things. It can't however put food on the table and pay the bills. Love is the greatest of contradictions, without it nothing seems worthwhile, but it is definitely not ALL you need. Each couples love is their own, but there are lines that are not to be crossed. It's not about having someone who "needs" you, if your partner can't take care of themselves they are in no position to be in a relationship. Your true partner is the person who makes you a better YOU, and vice versa.
Young love is far less likely to succeed, especially in today's world. Love and relationships are constant work. You can't expect to lock eyes across a crowded room and be set for life. It really doesn't work like that. You need to fall in love with the same person every day, and that is no easy feat. You need to constantly compromise, and go out of your way to make the other person smile. It takes effort.
My generation as a whole is very young and dumb, for every one that actually has their head on straight there is at least four others who are complete messes. Saying I'm a little nervous to see what the future holds is a gross understatement. I guess we'll find out together...
Stay Tuned
Friday, December 6, 2013
Where did all the good shows go??
When I was a teenager TV started to change, and I didn't like it, now as a Mom I like it less. I feel the need to write to these children channels, or perhaps there should just be a new channel with all the good old shows.
I mean honestly who among us doesn't any and a versions of "The Muppets", or "Winnie the Pooh" or "Fraggle Rock", or "Eurika's Castle", or "School House Rock". I could go on and on with all the awesome shows they no longer play but that would be boring.
I'm not asking that they re-make them just simply bring them back, replay them for a new generation. I don't know how many people out there actually watch the kids show that are on theses days, but as I S.A.H.M. I watch quite often and I am not impressed. I won't get into specific shows, but in general, I don't approve of the lessons many teach or the ways they go about it. I also believe many lessons have to be lived not seen on television.
I remember watching shows with my mom and brother that were the same ones she watched with her mother at our age. That is such a strong connection there from a childs point of view, I mean how cool is that! It's like your time traveling with your family, laughing at the same jokes and sharing stories from days gone by.
I would love to sit with my daughter on my lap and say "Mommy used to love this show" and not be watching DVDs IF I were lucky enough to find them.
With all the things going to hell in this world and especially this country, the way children are being raised these days is not helping anything. I am 24 I was spanked, I played outside, I didn't wear a helmet, and hose water was the best water ever! I turned out fine, I have a nice home and a beautiful family. I have a good work ethic and I don't go to pieces when things don't go my way, how much of that can be said about most kids these days?
"The world is at her best ya know, when people love and care..." Kermit the Frog, Muppets Christmas Carrol.
Stay tuned
I mean honestly who among us doesn't any and a versions of "The Muppets", or "Winnie the Pooh" or "Fraggle Rock", or "Eurika's Castle", or "School House Rock". I could go on and on with all the awesome shows they no longer play but that would be boring.
I'm not asking that they re-make them just simply bring them back, replay them for a new generation. I don't know how many people out there actually watch the kids show that are on theses days, but as I S.A.H.M. I watch quite often and I am not impressed. I won't get into specific shows, but in general, I don't approve of the lessons many teach or the ways they go about it. I also believe many lessons have to be lived not seen on television.
I remember watching shows with my mom and brother that were the same ones she watched with her mother at our age. That is such a strong connection there from a childs point of view, I mean how cool is that! It's like your time traveling with your family, laughing at the same jokes and sharing stories from days gone by.
I would love to sit with my daughter on my lap and say "Mommy used to love this show" and not be watching DVDs IF I were lucky enough to find them.
With all the things going to hell in this world and especially this country, the way children are being raised these days is not helping anything. I am 24 I was spanked, I played outside, I didn't wear a helmet, and hose water was the best water ever! I turned out fine, I have a nice home and a beautiful family. I have a good work ethic and I don't go to pieces when things don't go my way, how much of that can be said about most kids these days?
"The world is at her best ya know, when people love and care..." Kermit the Frog, Muppets Christmas Carrol.
Stay tuned
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