Lies in Relationships

There are so many misconceptions people have come to accept as truth. Like thinking your problems are "special or unique", that "no one understands", or that "everybody does ________", and the ever famous "all you need is love". There is one that I find very upsetting, that most people wouldn't even think of.

Yesterday at a friends house we were watching "Mr. & Mrs. Smith". There's a part in the beginning when Mrs. Smith is sitting across from the marriage counselor, and is obviously fidgeting, and wringing her hands as she says "I'm mean everyone has secrets right?".

THAT IS THE BIGGEST LIE IN RELATIONSHIPS!!!

There is NO ROOM for secrets in any relationship. I'm really not sure when that became unconsciously accepted but it's really not the way things should be.

I know some of you are thinking "This chick is crazy and deluding herself". While I won't completely deny the crazy part ;) in this I know I'm right.

Now I'm not claiming we need to know every detail of our loved ones lives cause I mean who really cares what our spouses favorite color was when they were 6. I am saying there is no reason you should ever intentionally withhold or omit things when sharing with your spouse. When they ask how your day went, if you find yourself editing or giving a per-rehearsed speech then something is wrong. 

Think of it this way. Every lie, every edited story, or untold tidbit  is like a brick between you and your spouse. It may not seem like much at first, just something you trip on to get to each other, but sooner than you think it gets higher. Before you know it you're having to climb, and then one day you get home and realize your lover can't even see you anymore. They don't know who you are. 

I have seen real love. I have seen love do amazing things. It's not easy. Love can't thrive without effort. Honesty is the root of love. Without honesty, there is no trust, without trust THERE IS NO LOVE. If you can't trust the person you're with then you're with the wrong person.

Be truthful, because at the end of every day REAL love conquers all.

Stay Tuned
God Bless