Everybody LOVES to give advice. The world is full of nosie rosies who want to hear all your problems and tell you exactly how you should fix them. I do it too and I know it, but I have been getting better at looking at things from different perspectives.
Have you ever noticed that for all the people spouting advice left and right, no one actually listens to anyone else? People ask or don't ask and get plenty words of wisdom yet they still do whatever they had planned before hand.
What I am only just beginning to realize is that most advise people give is something they would never do. It's their reaction in a perfect world, if they had nerves of steel and weren't afraid of the consequences. Also, while many life problems are similar from person to person, no two are exactly the same. So even if someone comes to you going through a situation that you've also experienced you have to keep in mind there are a million little things that are different. You can say what you did and what you wish you had done, but you can't give anyone else and exact path to follow because things you may not know or understand are different.
My sister and I are constantly having a similar dispute with our spouses. We call each other, and sympathies, we share stories, what might work what didn't, but at the end of the day she and I are two VERY different people and our men who have as much in common as rugby and football. So we can compare and commiserate as much as we like but what works for the duck does not work for the goose. (I am of course the duck because she's a silly goose.)
I find that when people so boldly suggest how you should live your life, they never consider the way you actually live your life!!
So next time some one comes to you for guiding words take a moment and THINK about that person, how well you know them, and what they should logically do in said situation. They might actually hear what you have to say....
Stay Tuned.
God Bless.
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